Psychology / SocialSkills / InterHumanCompetence

Why?

source: https://news.yahoo.com/daily-digit-women-waiting-longer-start-kids-theyre-162108027.html

The answer is: career and in capitalism

or in other words:

insecurity / anxiety not to survive without sufficient support from the (already mentally ill) money-community

Everybody knows the older the woman/men the worse the genetic material gets, the risk for a disabled child increase, the higher the risk of mankind to die out.

So shiny Coca Cola capitalism without limits: it is a poison for families and: IT’S A TRAP!

(for the WHOLE species)

But who can flee and declare independence from the monetary system?

Almost nobody – small steps are possible – grow your own food – your own water well – your own solar system – your own waste water treatment… well here the problems start… because of pro corporations lobby made laws. (gov corruption in short)

You will need money to buy land to free yourself from money (without governmental support a slow and agonizing process that goes over decades).

The worst: Why are there so many singles?

Unrestricted unlimited everyone will be happy “make believe” capitalism poisons the habitat with chemicals affecting the brains plus systematically breeds  selfishness (this is scientifically proven) and psychopaths and destroys social skills – guess how this affects relationships (in the worst way possible… )

Apple: Social Freezing

the term itself makes me chill.

“With more and more women choosing to have children later in life, many are opting to freeze their eggs.”

https://news.yahoo.com/egg-freezing-fertility-ivf-120423781.html

it may sound sad but:

In the 14th century, the cause of death for a lot of people was violence, so a lot has improved since then on the “obvious” violence front.

But the “systemic violence” front on a global scale is invisible to the naked eye… except for a few journalists that get shot because of writing the truth, the “systemic violence” of the system goes undetected – against the poorest of the poor but also against children of the West.

superb documentary “System Error – How will capitalism end?” (Optiz, 2018)#

PS: faster machines are nice – but sufficient fast machines are sufficient/enough – going faster and faster will not rescue the planet – a holistic concept for sustainable survival of life on this planet could.

Links:

https://medium.com/@Swartzchild/the-cancer-of-capitalism-92d82bd01089

the family is – still – considered the nucleus (the core) of every society in any country.

in an ideal world – the family consists of mother, father and one or more children (originating from the two parents).

in an ideal world – the parents communicate and cooperate in education.

in an ideal world – the parents tell each other – they love each other.

in an ideal world – parents stay together for a lifetime.

in an ideal world – parents are respectful towards each other and the child towards the parents and vice versa.

in an ideal world – a family is like a bunch of best friends.

why is the reality in 99.9% of all cases so much different?

most women in western societies – who’s solely job might be to give birth, educate and raise children – feel unable to cope with the task.

the male is usually engaging in the brutal battle of debt generated money – trying to secure a piece of the pie.

or in other words: trying to generate a claim to charge money from someone or something (company, state).

in an ideal world the female is supported by the male whenever she hits her educational limits (two children fighting constantly).

but in reality:

  • the male is usually absent
  • lack of teamwork: the female “child care taking experienced professional” “forgets” to teach and communicate how to help her, so the male just tries one’s best to do it without guidance – learning by doing – which will result in the female rejecting the influence of the male

Why do have couples in (still poor but catching up) countries like India and Africa so many children and western females – if they have any – are already at their limits with one child?

My theory:

  1. First of all – almost nobody of the western hemisphere has seen true poverty.
    • It means a child covered in dirt with no shoes
  2. economic outlook is not super bright
    • the current form of aggressive capitalism is just simply unsustainable and people feel it (means: it is going to end, hit rock bottom)
  3. parents have no practice in raising a child
    • maybe they should have trained with a pet dog first
  4. parents seem to have a hard time finding the right balance between “ignore mode” (neglective, the opposite of love is not hate but ignorance) and overprotective (prohibiting growth by experience – that later – the child will have to learn anyway).
  5. the modern work life separates male and female – thus having no time to learn how to be team players in family issues (and there are plenty)
  6. in poorer countries – child labor is considered normal – and even in western societies it was normal 50 and 100 years ago – that all children had to help with the work on the farm
    • result:
      • children create more work than they do / help their parents.
      • children of the poorer hemispheres are considered cheap work force for the parents
      • children of the wealthier hemispheres are considered a costly financial burden (cost money approx 2-800€ per month per child)
  7. in poorer countries – people have unprotected sex – being ignorant of the consequences – in short: they do not care who get’s pregnant and if the child survives or not – pure irresponsible egoism and – fuck now – who cares about tomorrow. (not sure if tomorrow can be survived)

paradox

this leads to the paradox situation – where adults – give up on reproduction – while still engaging 150% in career – accumulating wealth – that after they die – will be passed to who ever is left of their family – but not their children – because they don’t have any – so they had a short and stressful life – working for egoism – but their work goes to waste after they die. (nothing is passed on to children, nobody is educated, it all comes to an halt)

(4 African countries are in the top10 economic GDP growth 2018 list)

solution?

i could give a solution here… but i just to frustrated right now, if you have one hit the buttons.