the family is – still – considered the nucleus (the core) of every society in any country.
in an ideal world – the family consists of mother, father and one or more children (originating from the two parents).
in an ideal world – the parents communicate and cooperate in education.
in an ideal world – the parents tell each other – they love each other.
in an ideal world – parents stay together for a lifetime.
in an ideal world – parents are respectful towards each other and the child towards the parents and vice versa.
in an ideal world – a family is like a bunch of best friends.
why is the reality in 99.9% of all cases so much different?
most women in western societies – who’s solely job might be to give birth, educate and raise children – feel unable to cope with the task.
the male is usually engaging in the brutal battle of debt generated money – trying to secure a piece of the pie.
or in other words: trying to generate a claim to charge money from someone or something (company, state).
in an ideal world the female is supported by the male whenever she hits her educational limits (two children fighting constantly).
but in reality:
- the male is usually absent
- lack of teamwork: the female “child care taking experienced professional” “forgets” to teach and communicate how to help her, so the male just tries one’s best to do it without guidance – learning by doing – which will result in the female rejecting the influence of the male
Why do have couples in (still poor but catching up) countries like India and Africa so many children and western females – if they have any – are already at their limits with one child?
- First of all – almost nobody of the western hemisphere has seen true poverty.
- It means a child covered in dirt with no shoes
- economic outlook is not super bright
- the current form of aggressive capitalism is just simply unsustainable and people feel it (means: it is going to end, hit rock bottom)
- parents have no practice in raising a child
- maybe they should have trained with a pet dog first
- parents seem to have a hard time finding the right balance between “ignore mode” (neglective, the opposite of love is not hate but ignorance) and overprotective (prohibiting growth by experience – that later – the child will have to learn anyway).
- the modern work life separates male and female – thus having no time to learn how to be team players in family issues (and there are plenty)
- in poorer countries – child labor is considered normal – and even in western societies it was normal 50 and 100 years ago – that all children had to help with the work on the farm
- children create more work than they do / help their parents.
- children of the poorer hemispheres are considered cheap work force for the parents
- children of the wealthier hemispheres are considered a costly financial burden (cost money approx 2-800€ per month per child)
- in poorer countries – people have unprotected sex – being ignorant of the consequences – in short: they do not care who get’s pregnant and if the child survives or not – pure irresponsible egoism and – fuck now – who cares about tomorrow. (not sure if tomorrow can be survived)
this leads to the paradox situation – where adults – give up on reproduction – while still engaging 150% in career – accumulating wealth – that after they die – will be passed to who ever is left of their family – but not their children – because they don’t have any – so they had a short and stressful life – working for egoism – but their work goes to waste after they die. (nothing is passed on to children, nobody is educated, it all comes to an halt)
(4 African countries are in the top10 economic GDP growth 2018 list)
i could give a solution here… but i just to frustrated right now, if you have one hit the buttons.